He reminded us not to rush to judgment.

A very large part of me wishes that were the headline. Because I cannot forget that the first person announced by the media as a suspect was questioned and searched purely on the basis of his nationality. Because I can't set aside the realization that the Chechnyan president felt a need, not only to express regret, but to explicitly distance his home from the current suspects.

Don't get me wrong, I want to know how deep and how far the plot surrounding the bombings in Boston runs. But in situations like this one, there is a very important difference between knowing and believing. We need to give the right people the time they need to figure this out. We need to have some patience, and we need to question quick, simple answers.

Because nothing about this is easy. It isn't easy to live through, it isn't easy to understand, and it isn't easy to extend.

(Thank you to Eliza Dropkin for passing it on.

Photo credits: This citizen journalism image provided by Edlib News Network, ENN, which has been authenticated based on its contents and other AP reporting, shows anti-Syrian regime protesters carrying a banner expressing condolonces to the victims of the Boston Marathon bombing during a demonstration, at Kafr Nabil town, in Idlib province, northern Syria, Friday April 19, 2013. Gunmen killed a government official in a Damascus restaurant, Syrian state media and activists reported Friday as regime troops and rebels fought fierce battles near the Lebanese border. (AP Photo/Edlib News Network ENN))

But we have to. Those of us who can, who are not struggling to overcome our own personal grief and trauma around this week, have an obligation to step back and think. We owe it to those who lost their lives, to those who rushed to help, to those who live with this kind of fear every day. It is our responsibility to step back and see the bigger picture. To figure out the why, but also to look deeper and figure out how to change the world.

Really, truly, deeply change the world.

And the truth of that challenge is that there is no one answer to it all. There are a million angles that can and should be used to make the world a place where all people feel safe and valued. The key, I believe, is for each of us to pick at least one, and not argue about which is the most worthy. Just pick one. Start somewhere. And be willing to learn from those who chose to start elsewhere.